“As women must be more empowered at work, men must be more empowered at home. I have seen so many women inadvertently discourage their husbands from doing their share by being too controlling or critical. Social scientists call this “maternal gatekeeping” which is a fancy term for “Ohmigod, that’s not the way you do it! Just move aside and let me!”…Anyone who wants her mate to be a true partner must treat him as an equal and equally capable partner. And if that’s not reason enough, bear in mind that a study found that wives who engage in gatekeeping behaviors do five more hours of family work per week than wives who take a more collaborative approach.
Another common and counterproductive dynamic occurs when women assign or suggest tasks to their partners. She is delegating, and that’s a step in the right direction. But sharing responsibility should mean sharing responsibility. Each partner needs to be in charge of specific activities or it becomes too easy for one to feel like he’s doing a favor instead of doing his part.” ~
All I can add to this is something my friend Mueni likes to say, “when a father looks after their own child, it’s neither babysitting nor daddy daycare. It’s parenting.”