If I Should Have A Daughter by Sarah Kay

This week I am missing my mum. I don’t mean in the heart-wrenching “why are you not here” way. Just in the quiet, I wish you were here so I could tell you all my little things way. It made me go back in time in search of this poem.  If, like me, you have…

In Closing – Becoming

It took me a really long time but I finally finished Michelle Obama’s book, Becoming. It was a heavy, multi-layered, slow read that required me to pause and think deeply a lot. I don’t think it’s everyone’s cup of tea but despite some initial doubts, it turned out to be mine. About a third into…

I Can’t Be SuperWoman Today

‘You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the…

Women@Work: That Cultural Handicap: Culture and The Workplace

 source “Culture is a collective programming of the mind that distinguishes the members of one group or category of people from another.” source Culture is a beautiful thing. It speaks to one’s roots and identity. It speaks “to the ideas, customs, and social behaviour of a particular people or society.” If one wants to be a…

Women@Work: Competing Paradigms, Scrambled Brains and Michelle Obama

source “For me, being a mother made me a better professional, because coming home every night to my girls reminded me what I was working for. And being a professional made me a better mother, because by pursuing my dreams, I was modeling for my girls how to pursue their dreams.” ~ Michelle Obama Although…

5 Life Lessons From Weaning (Plus First Ever Giveaway Loading…)

“While we try to teach our children all about life, our children teach us what life is all about.” It’s so easy to fall into the trap of believing that the lessons in a parent- child relationship flow in only one direction: from you to the baby. Nothing could be further from the truth. My…

“We Teach Girls to Shrink Themselves…”

When Beyoncé’s fifth self-titled album was released, everyone raged about the song “flawless.” As a lover of music, I couldn’t resist a listen but try as I might, I couldn’t get past the “bow down b*****” part of the song so I left it alone. I figured each to his own. And so it was…

Women@Work: Empowerment is a Two-Way Street

“As women must be more empowered at work, men must be more empowered at home. I have seen so many women inadvertently discourage their husbands from doing their share by being too controlling or critical. Social scientists call this “maternal gatekeeping” which is a fancy term for “Ohmigod, that’s not the way you do it!…

Getting Ready to Get him off the Boobies

“It is good to have an end to journey toward; but it is the journey that matters, in the end.” ~ Ursula K. Le Guin, The Left Hand of Darkness 14 months postpartum and I am sitting at my office desk with a breastmilk stain on my blouse *eyeroll*. Such a novice move. Knowing how difficult the…