How many times have you walked into a meeting you are meant to be in and immediately removed yourself to a corner. How many times have you felt apologetic about your achievements? How many have you answered “what do you do” with a self-deprecating watered down version of what you actually do? How many times have sat “out of the way” in a meeting room? How many times have you avoided small talk with other participants before, during and after the meeting? How many times have you left a meeting thinking “I really should have said something about that” because I know the answer. How many times has an opportunity been floating there and you waited for someone to hand it to you directly? Have you ever wondered why? An awareness of the behaviour that has been reinforced in you as lady-like for years plays a powerful part in opening your eyes to the subconscious ways in which you may be holding yourself back. Just that… awareness.
Tag: women at work
The Real Value of Networking (Around the world in 80 clicks)
To some, networking means simply meeting or calling someone new for what might be a one-off discussion or event. In this limited sense, networking is only a trading relationship in which two parties seek to discover whether they have anything of mutual interest to talk about. They either make some sort of exchange or quickly…
Simon Sinek on the Difference between Optimism and Positivity
“People don’t buy what you do; they buy why you do it. And what you do simply proves what you believe” Simon Sinek, Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action After listening to his now legendary Ted Talk on How Great Leaders Inspire Action (Start with why), I became a huge fan…
I Don’t Deserve to be Here: Presence and the Impostor Syndrome
Harvard Business School professor Amy Cuddy on overcoming self-doubt to reveal your boldest self. The general feeling that we don’t belong—that we’ve fooled people into thinking we’re more competent and talented than we actually are—is not so unusual. Most of us have experienced it, at least to some degree. It’s not simple stage fright or…
The Different Kinds of Imposter Syndrome (Around the Web in 80 Clicks)
I have written 11 books but each time I think ‘Uh-oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.’ Maya Angelou Many high achievers share a dirty little secret: Deep down they feel like complete frauds–their accomplishments the result of serendipitous luck.This psychological phenomenon,…
Build Before you Have to
“Build before you have to. – Build knowledge before you have to.– Build strength before you have to.– Build an emergency fund before you have to. Let internal pressure drive you today, so you can handle external pressure tomorrow.” James Clear, 3-2-1 Newsletter I am getting ready to start in a new role very soon….
We are in the 4th Industrial Revolution: How To Stay Relevant And Re-Skill Yourself
“It is a law of nature we overlook, that intellectual versatility is the compensation for change, danger, and trouble. An animal perfectly in harmony with its environment is a perfect mechanism. Nature never appeals to intelligence until habit and instinct are useless. There is no intelligence where there is no change and no need of…
A Beginner’s Guide to Taking Up Space (Around the World in 80 Clicks)
“Don’t be afraid to ‘take up space.’” It’s advice told time and time again, especially in moments where we’re overwhelmed by everything and everyone, and feeling particularly small or lost in the world. But what does that actually mean? How exactly does one take it on in the actual world? And what will it actually do…
The Postpartum Career: How to Automate a Habit and Never Think About It Again
“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.” James Clear in Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones Continuing with this week’s theme, let’s kill two birds with one stone. The first bird is sharing a practical…
Life advice from famous working moms—from Michelle Obama to Victoria Beckham to Serena Williams
“After nourishment, shelter, and companionship, stories are the thing we need most in the world.” Philip Pullman There are so many incredible women who have succeeded at both ‘insert job title’ and ‘mama’ and hearing how relatable their views are can only be good for us working moms just trying to figure it out. We…