The Battle for Softness

Everyone experiences life in their own way. Everyone responds in their own way. I was born tender and soft-spoken. I was born considerate and loving. I was raised eager to please with a belief in fairness. Life is beautiful but she is neither easy nor fair. She battered me left and right. She demanded that…

My theme for 2023: Rooting my Touch Tree

One of the defining reads of 2022 was Glennon Doyle’s Untamed. It was so defining that I read it 3 times at different times in the year. This book is the perfect illustration of a meme-like poster that does the rounds on Instagram stating that I should read books that had a profound effect on…

2022. My Year of Yes

Those who have stayed with me on my nomadic move from blog to blog over the last 10 or 12 years know that every December I take stock. I work out my theme for the new year and I reflect on the year gone by. 2022 was not perfect but Good God in heaven, it…

Everybody needs toilet paper

I write lots of notes to myself. I capture fleeting thoughts that make an impression on me on whatever is nearest: note paper, journal, receipts, my phone… everything. Often, I then forget about them. The one thing I do consistently is I date them. I will come across random thoughts that are years old from…

Come on into the Boardroom. Take a Seat at the Table

How many times have you walked into a meeting you are meant to be in and immediately removed yourself to a corner. How many times have you felt apologetic about your achievements? How many have you answered “what do you do” with a self-deprecating watered down version of what you actually do? How many times have sat “out of the way” in a meeting room? How many times have you avoided small talk with other participants before, during and after the meeting? How many times have you left a meeting thinking “I really should have said something about that” because I know the answer. How many times has an opportunity been floating there and you waited for someone to hand it to you directly? Have you ever wondered why? An awareness of the behaviour that has been reinforced in you as lady-like for years plays a powerful part in opening your eyes to the subconscious ways in which you may be holding yourself back. Just that… awareness.

5 Critical Skills to Find Your Voice in the Workplace (Around the Web in 80 Clicks)

Written by Shavon Lindley at trainingindustry.com Workplace cultures often feature certain contradictory personality types: people who tend to dominate conversations and people who tend to remain quieter. Sometimes, these differences are based on hierarchy; if you’re lower on the ladder, you might be less inclined to offer input. Sometimes, they can be rooted in gender;…

Evolution in a time of Corona and an Industrial Revolution

“force′ of habit. n. behavior occurring without thought and by virtue of constant repetition; habit.” When physically going to church was still a thing, during a sermon, one of the pastors at our church told the following anecdote: A couple was newlywed and being lovers of food, they splurged on a fully outfitted kitchen with…

Women@Work: Work, Race & Prejudice

“What is it you most dislike? Stupidity, especially in its nastiest forms of racism and superstition.” ~ Christopher Hitchens When I wake up most mornings, I take an extra few minutes to lie quietly and just allow my body to wake up. Often, I will say a little word of thanks to God while I wait. At…